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HIV/AIDS: Abundance
by Bradford McIntyre
In August of 1998,
a group of friends and I were sunning down at English Bay beach.
I was coughing and my friend Janine Paquette said, “that’s
a serious cough, I'd get that checked out”! I was thinking
it was a cold and hoped it would soon go away. By late September
it was determined by a chest x-ray that I had developed PCP (pneumocystis-carinii-pneumonia),
an opportunistic infection related to HIV. Thirteen years earlier
I had been diagnosed HIV positive and given six months to live,
but I survived all those many years! Now I was faced with nearly
no immune system, a viral load made up of millions of viral particles
and this deadly pneumonia. When it looked like it could go either
way whether I survived or not, I decided to send an e-mail to
my family and many friends telling them of my condition and circumstances.
As the weeks passed, I could not tolerate the medications
for PCP and my health deteriorated rapidly. My body fat completely
gone, a shell of the man I was, face skinny and drawn. A wasting
of 25 pounds, bed ridden and losing my capacity to breathe, it
appeared as though I was going to die. I decided I did not want
to go in the hospital; home is where I wanted to be. I was not
afraid of dying; living in fear was in the past. I moved from
fear years earlier and I had in these later years learned to "
Show Up For Life "! Enjoying living positively positive,
in the now, loving and trusting. For me the abundance of life
does not come from what one provides for oneself, but it is in
our connectedness. And from my bed I would hear and see the connectedness
grow.
Individuals would call but I was too weak at times
to even speak. Others sent e-mails, later conveyed to me by my
good friend Lois Brassart who was at my side practically all the
time. Friends everywhere were praying but the messages coming
in were ones of sadness and death. Some were praying for me to
have a peaceful passing. It was then I realized this was not at
all what I wanted. So I voiced it was important for me to have
positive support, not negative. My desire or wishes conveyed to
all were, "if you are going to pray, pray I stay here on
the planet". Having voiced this, the message spread.
In those glorious sunny days of Indian summer and
what seemed the last days, friends and family prayed. Some went
to their church and lit candles; others called radio and TV prayer
lines. In just a very short time news and prayers traveled from
Vancouver to my hometown of Sarnia, Ontario. To London, Kitchener,
Toronto and Ottawa, cities I had lived and worked in over the
years prior to moving to Vancouver. From coast to coast, to the
United States and even abroad individuals were aware of my illness
and hoping and praying I would not die. My friend Lisa Kenkel's
mom was on her way to Ireland, and her mom too was going to ask
others to pray for me. The reports were coming in from everywhere!
My good friend Beverly Blanchard in Ottawa called
her mother in Sault Ste. Marie, Ontario, to ask her mom to pray
for me. At this time I was going in and out of consciousness and
barely breathing. My brothers Paul and Greg and my sister Heather
all living in Ontario were on a plane to be with me. Also my good
friend Robert Arnder who lives in Mexico was on his way. I was
trying to hold on.
One of the last things I remember hearing, was
about a Minister at a church in Ste Saint Marie who gave the congregation
home work. After the Sunday service the Minister told the congregation
he wanted everyone when they left the church to go out and find
someone they did not know. "Ask them to pray for Bradford
McIntyre, who was sick and dying but wanted to stay on the planet,"
he said.
Lois was with me when my heart and breathing stopped,
bending over my still body, she put her face to mine. Some time
later, Lois would be shocked by a gust of breath that came bellowing
out of my mouth. Lois days later told me, from my breath came
the sweetest scent she ever knew. The breath of life!
I will never know all who cared and prayed, but
years later healthy and alive, my heart goes out to you all. I
am forever grateful to everyone for the love and caring, their
well wishes and prayers. Much Love and gratitude to my family
and those wonderful friends who made up my care giving team, Lois
Brassart, Christine Kirkwood, Don Nippard, Mike Sauer, and Catherine
Dawson.
The abundance of life does come from our connectedness!
I am very happy to be here on the planet.
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